The Lovers Tarot Card after a Breakup – What Does It Mean?
Breakups are harsh, and the appearance of The Lovers in your tarot reading after a breakup initiates a trail of questions in your mind. You’ve been through enough; now let’s calm the anxieties that make it hard to believe it could be over.
A breakup never comes alone. It brings along the despair of not being enough or not being lucky enough. You may have thought that this was everything that you could ever ask for. But when it ends, it feels like the world is over. I assure you, dear souls, it is not.
The universe loves just as much as it does that lucky one in love and relationships. The path ahead may seem dark and dead-end right now. But as soon as you decide to walk out of this despair, you can witness the endless possibilities the universe has for you.
Let’s break down this blog into a series of questions that can be bothersome when The Lovers show up in your tarot reading after a breakup. I pray that by the end of this blog, all your anxieties come to an end.
What does The Lovers mean after a breakup?
Superficially, The Lovers suggests a heavenly, blessed union. The card has much deeper insights. The meanings and predictions change depending on the querent’s situation. Therefore, what The Lovers has to say depends entirely on your situation and the relationship’s potential.
The card’s position in the spread also matters. The past position shows your perspective on the relationship. It underscores the physical and emotional depth of your relationship.
Also, The Lovers shows the querent’s vulnerability. You might find it hard to get over it. It’s completely natural to feel this way right now. It takes considerable care, passion, and dedication to nurture a relationship. When it ends, all that hard work can feel like it drains away.
Therefore, it is quite natural for The Lovers to show up in your tarot reading. The connotation, however, is neither negative nor positive. It simply shows your internal struggle.
Does The Lovers mean your ex still loves you?
Tarot cards do reveal possibilities. Not necessarily all relationships are meant to end after a breakup. Sometimes breakups are temporary, and a reunion is possible. However, a personalized reading with an experienced tarot reader can be far more beneficial.
I have often received The Lovers tarot card in my clients’ readings when they were going through a turbulent phase in their relationship. In several cases, a reunion seemed possible.
Whether your ex still loves you depends entirely on the card’s position in your reading. If the card comes in the present position, your ex may still love you. However, the interpretation can be more detailed when a tarot reader personalizes your reading.
Can The Lovers indicate reconciliation?
Yes! In several cases, The Lovers indicates a possibility of reconciliation. As I have mentioned before, some breakups are temporary.
Often the couple drifts apart due to a troublesome period. The distance gives them a chance to reconsider their relationship and the situation surrounding it. Therefore, sometimes time apart gives the couple a chance to think carefully about their relationship and its future.
The chances of reconciliation also depend on your partner’s energy. It is not natural for your partner to return to you just because you think it that way. Harmonization is possible when both partners are seeking each other.
The Lovers upright after a breakup
Four positive connotations are possible when The Lovers is upright.
- Depth of a Relationship: It shows how deeply you were involved with your partner. It was a long-term commitment with many secrets shared.
- Possibility of a Reconciliation: The angel of love in The Lovers supports a positive and blessed relationship. The breakup might not be the end of your companionship, but rather a break from each other.
- Divine Intervention and Timing: The Lovers also suggest that your relationship will come to fruition at the right time. Divine intervention is also possible and could set things right.
- Right One has to Come: The Lovers say that the right person has not arrived yet. You may meet someone special in the future.
The Lovers reversed after a Breakup
The Lovers can have three negative connotations when it arrives reversed.
- Celestial Protection: The Lovers have a protective energy for the querent. There is a possibility of the universe protecting you from the harm that your relationship could have caused.
- Toxic Relationship: You might have been in a vulnerable position in your relationship. The breakup possibly has saved you from the worst.
- More of a Situationship: Your partner may have been treating the bond as situational. They may have no intention of settling with you in the future.
The reversed card doesn’t always bring undesirable news. These are some of the responses that I have recorded when I received The Lovers reversed. The connotations are apparently harsh. However, The Lovers assures divine intervention to protect your heart from the worst.
Does The Lovers mean your Breakup was a mistake?
The Lovers is associated with a sacred union, encouraging you to think that way. However, the card does not explicitly state that your breakup was a mistake.
Querents are often delighted when they see The Lovers in their reading. However, their delight reflects how they feel about their partner. This is how they see the relationship right now – a happily ever after.
Therefore, The Lovers suggests the difficulty in moving on from the romanticized perception of your ex. I can’t emphasize enough that a personalized reading helps you understand the situation better.
The Lovers as a Message about your Healing
Letting go isn’t easy. We have discussed that The Lovers reflects those feelings. The card envelops an important revelation about the need for healing.
The Lovers combines feminine and masculine energies. After a breakup, one can become dependent on the other. Therefore, the card calls for an energetic balance within.
In females, masculine energy often overpowers their femininity, while the opposite is true for males. Taking refuge in 7-chakra healing can be beneficial. Also, talking therapy, emotional counseling, and delving into hobbies can be your breakthrough.
What other cards appear with The Lovers?
Other cards can accompany The Lovers. Depending on the spread and deck that your reader uses, the energy of a reading can vary. Usually, Three of Swords, Ace of Cups, Four of Wands, The Sun, The Tower, The Death, and Ten of Swords can show up beside The Lovers.
The appearance of other cards can vary for each querent and tarotist. However, some cards can be common. But their interpretation depends on your tarotist’s psyche and your situation.
Keep your heart open for your highest good, and the reading will be effortless. Instead of focusing on ‘I want him or her back,’ try thinking ‘How can I overcome this?’
What can you ask the tarotist after seeing The Lovers?
The first question clients ask is, ‘Is there a possibility that they’ll come back?’ It’s your call what you want to ask. Instead of giving you a list of questions to follow once you spot The Lovers, I can share my response to my reader.
I never get excited or disappointed when I see The Lovers in a reading. (Yes, even I like to get a reading for myself from another reader). Being a reader myself, it is difficult to keep myself from predicting the cards. But I focus more on the message the cards have for me than on the results I desire.
I let the tarotist finish first, then I ask my questions. I prefer to clear up any doubts first, if I have any. Mostly, I have two to three questions to gain clarity. However, my focus remains on the main intention I had behind the reading.
Personally, I did get confused when I received The Lovers in my reading after a heartbreaking experience. Though it wasn’t a relationship, the reading saved me from falling for a notorious person.
What can I leave you with?
Heartbreak calls for healing. I recommend focusing on healing if a reunion isn’t visible in your reading. Querents often keep getting readings from different tarotists to find a worthwhile response. In the process, you can eventually drain yourself.
Keep your energy centered on your upliftment, and the guiding light will illuminate your path. If you focus on getting back something not meant for you, you can impede self-growth and your healing.
I knew this exact feeling and what coming out of a traumatic experience felt like. So you are not alone in feeling this way, and this is not the end of the world. This could be the start of something new and far better than you can imagine.
We often limit our growth in our comfort zone. What you are scared of is entering into something new and unknown. But the unknown doesn’t have to be unpleasant.
Be brave and try to see the brighter side in this situation. The best thing that could heal your heart is time. So, don’t be afraid to move forward for fear of tripping and falling. These are the common side effects of healing from a breakup. But some difficulties you face ahead can bring you lasting happiness for a lifetime.
Looking for a deeper perspective on what your cards are saying about your relationship? A personal tarot reading can help you explore the energy surrounding your situation.
About the Author
Hi, I’m Aartie, a tarot reader with more than 20 years of experience in reading and exploring tarot. Over the years, I’ve used tarot to help people uncover possibilities in love, relationships, and personal growth.
Through Crayon Tarot, I help people discover tarot and how it supports reflection, clarity, and guidance, rather than merely predicting what might happen.
I believe the cards can help you understand patterns, possibilities, and the energies surrounding a situation, while your choices and free will continue shaping your life’s journey.
Aartie Missra
Founder, Tarot Reader, and Creator of Crayon Tarot.
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